When We Becomes Me
A psychotherapist’s guide to the beginning, the messy middle, and the other side of divorce — offering calm, clarity, and compassion when life feels like it’s shifting under your feet.
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If you’re navigating separation or divorce and you’re not sure where you begin now the “we” has changed — this is for you. Gentle, practical, and deeply human.
Author: Sarah-Jane Covell (MBACP)
Formats: Kindle & Paperback
Focus: Divorce • Separation • Rebuilding self
5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing bookReviewed in the United States on March 2, 2026
“This book hit so close to home. We are separated for a few months to see what we both want and how to proceed…This book covers everything I am feeling and trying to grasp and more. Well written and edited, it covers everything from estrangement to after separation and everything between. Very inclusive and well laid out. Reading this has helped me to see many of the things I am experiencing are normal and transitional. Came up on my reading que at a great time”.
“A sensitively written and affecting book, full of hope and practical advice.” Former publishing editor
“This book made me laugh, gave me goosebumps, and even though my divorce was over ten years ago, took me back in a way that felt surprisingly helpful. I realised I’d never really reflected on it before.” Early reader feedback.
What this book will help you with
- Making sense of the shock, grief, and emotional whiplash that can follow a relationship ending
- Understanding the “messy middle” — the part nobody prepares you for
- Rebuilding identity when the old life no longer fits
- Finding steadier ground: boundaries, self-compassion, and small steps forward
- Support for co-parenting and navigating changes around family life
- Spotting unhelpful patterns (and learning how to respond differently)
- Practical reflections you can return to when emotions surge
- A calmer, kinder way to move through this — without rushing your own healing
Who it’s for
- Anyone going through separation or divorce (or quietly considering it)
- People stuck between “it’s over” and “what now?”
- Those supporting children through a family transition
- Friends/family wanting to understand how to help
- Practitioners who want a lived, compassionate lens on endings and rebuilding
A gentle note
Divorce can feel like standing at a shoreline after a storm — the sea has shifted, the air is different, and you’re left trying to work out what’s still yours to keep. This book won’t rush you. It will help you find steadier footing, one honest step at a time.
If you’ve read it… thank you
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FAQs
Is this a “how to divorce” book?
It isn’t legal advice and it won’t tell you what decision to make. It’s emotional and practical support — to help you understand what’s happening inside you, and move through it with steadier footing.
Do I need to be divorced already?
No. It’s for the early tremors, the in-between, and the rebuilding — including that confusing stage where you’re still deciding what’s true and what you can live with.
Can this replace therapy?
It can be supportive alongside therapy, but it isn’t a substitute for personalised care. If you’d like tailored support, you’re welcome to enquire.
About the author
Sarah-Jane Covell is an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist (MBACP). Through Anchoring Therapy, she supports people navigating life transitions, relationship endings, and the emotional storms that can come with change — offering calm, clarity, and compassion when it’s needed most.